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Why You Should Commit to the Carry-On and Tips for Making it Easy

Why You Should Commit to the Carry-On and Tips for Making it Easy

The world is divided into two different kinds of people: overpackers and underpackers. If you fall into the first category, don’t turn away yet! Give me a few minutes to try and convince you that there is a better way to travel.

As you might already suspect, I am an underpacker. My measure of a packing fail: Coming home with even one thing in my suitcase that I did not need, use or wear during my trip. I do fail sometimes, but not often anymore.

Here’s how to pack lighter – all lessons I learned the hard way.

Start with an Attitude Change

It helps that I don’t really care how I look. I don’t mean I would travel in ripped or dirty clothes. But I don’t need to be the glammed up center of attention. In fact, when you’re traveling, the more you can blend in, the better. You’re less likely to be targeted by pickpockets and local scammers.

Spend a little time researching what the locals wear and try to pack like that. This is the lesson I learned when I wore my electric blue winter coat to Romania, a former Soviet block country where there were two colors of winter coat: grey and black.

So if you simply must be a fashion plate, try to pare down the clothes to a capsule wardrobe of items you can mix and match and pieces that will do double duty.

Use a Packing List

These printable packing lists will give you a feel for the things you’ll need. If the list includes something you don’t think you’ll need, don’t pack it. If there is something missing, make a note on the printed sheet so you don’t forget it.

Check the Weather Forecast

I make this recommendation because I live in Chicago. We like to say, “If you don’t like the weather, wait 10 minutes.” Here, the calendar might say May, but the thermometer might say March. Or July.

So check the forecast for your destination. It will tell you whether to pack a raincoat, sunhat, shorts, or sweaters.

Start Packing Early

If you have a spare bed, room, couch or some other spot to hold the things you want to pack, start a week early and put everything on the bed that you think you might want on your trip.

Then walk away.

Come back the next day and look it over. Is there anything missing? Is there anything you think you might not need on the trip? Make adjustments accordingly.

Then walk away.

Come back the next day with the intention of making choices. If you have two pairs of pants on the bed, take away one pair. If you have four shirts, take away two. And so on, until you have cut in half the things on the bed.

Then walk away.

The next day, it’s time to pack. Start with the pieces of clothing you absolutely MUST have with you.

If you run out of suitcase before you run out of clothes to pack, you get to make a choice: Leave something else behind or pay $40 or more to check a bag.

Buy Packing Cubes

I resisted buying this travel essential for years. Now I can’t believe I ever traveled without them.

Packing cubes are flexible pouches with a brilliant zipper system. You pack them with the clothes you want to take, and zip them shut. Then – this is the brilliant part – you zip a second zipper to compress the insides flat. (Think of it like your expandable suitcase, when you open that second zipper, it gives you an extra inch or two of suitcase space. When you zip it shut, everything inside is compressed.)

As a bonus, the clothes you lay inside the packing cube are much more likely to stay wrinkle free. I don’t know why. But it’s true.

Stick with One Basic Color

When I head to a Caribbean resort, that color will be white. But most of the time, it’s black – black pants, a black skirt, a black dress. Then I add color in the tops I will wear with the pants and skirt. Finally, I pack a few scarves and funky costume jewelry to dress everything up or down and add more color.

Wear the Heavy Stuff on the Plane

There are plenty of TikTokers and travel hacker influencers who will tell you to wear layers and layers on the plane to save suitcase space. Or to pack a pillowcase with your stuff and pretend it’s a pillow, not a suitcase, so it doesn’t count as a carryon.

While that might be useful info for travelers on uber-budget airlines that charge for anything that doesn’t fit under your seat, you really don’t have to go that crazy. Just use a little common sense.

If, for example, you’re flying from Florida to Colorado, you know you’ll need your winter coat, hat, gloves, hiking boots and heavy jeans. Wear the jeans and hiking boots on the plane, stuff the hat and gloves in the coat pockets and carry the coat on the plane rather than packing it in a suitcase.

I do this anyway because I’m always chilly on a plane. I’m always surprised when I see someone boarding a flight in shorts and flip flops. I would be blue by the time I landed!

Think Layers, Not Bulk

Thin layers are always the right answer, no matter where you are. Even a Caribbean vacation requires preparing for chilly evenings or overly air-conditioned restaurants. Layers are the answer to staying warm and packing light.

Make the Best Use of Your Under-Seat Bag

Finally, remember that you get not one, but two things to carry onto the plane – a bag that goes into the overhead and a smaller bag that fits under the seat in front of you.

Don’t waste the space in that second bag!

My go-to is a roomy backpack because I travel with a lot of electronics – laptop, Kindle, phone, ear buds and all of the cords and accessories they require. But those only take up two zippered compartments. That leaves two more compartments for other things – makeup bag, an extra pair of shoes, etc.

The other thing that works for me is a big striped bag that is super flexible. I can cram a lot into it and still stuff it under the seat. The downside of that is it is heavy to carry, unlike my backpack which easily distributes the weight across my shoulders.

Practice, Practice, Practice

I know. This isn’t easy. Especially if you’ve always been an overpacker. But practice will make perfect. Try it on your next quick weekend trip. That will give you a chance to see how it feels to only pack what you’ll need for 2-3 days, how much you like being able to lift that light carry-on bag and how happy you are not worrying about whether your suitcase will show up at the other end of your flight.

Just remember to pack one more thing: a credit card. That way, if you find you truly can’t live without something for a few days, you can head to the store to buy it.

Let’s Have a Conversation:

Are you an overpacker or an underpacker? What’s your favorite packing hack? Share with us in the comment section below.

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4 Nutrition Tips for a Healthy Fall – Plus a Favorite Autumn Soup Recipe

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Autumn brings shorter days and longer nights which means less sunshine and warmth. In this season, you have less access to natural Vitamin D though deficiency in this vital nutrient is a risk factor for susceptibility to cold and flu viruses.

Be sure to have your numbers checked, especially if you are dark skinned. Fluctuations in temperatures are common and call for a transition to foods that will keep you feeling warm but not overheated.

You want foods that are filled with nutrients to offset colds and other viruses that are more common as we spend more time indoors.

From beets to squash, the fall harvest is full of antioxidant- and fiber-rich foods to keep you healthy.

It’s always beneficial to experience a variety of flavors on your plate. In the US, we most commonly go for sweet or salty, but broadening flavor to include bitter, sour, and pungent creates more balance and variety for your body.

Follow these nutrition tips and try the recipe to perk up your health during the autumn months.

Go for Root Vegetables

Root vegetables grow close to or under the earth and provide insulation during the colder months.

Underground gems like garlic, onions, ginger, turnips, carrots, sweet potatoes, beets, and parsnips are great autumn food choices and offer a variety of flavors. Think white, yellow, orange, and purple for vegetables that will nourish you in autumn.

Add Anti-Inflammatory Foods

Allergies abound in autumn, from mold and pollen, but eating apples and onions help block histamines. Nature’s wisdom provides them in abundance in this season.

Think Fall Fruits

Apples, pears, red grapes, and pomegranates top my list of super fruits for autumn. Rich in anti-oxidants and fiber, they are bacteria fighters and satisfy your appetite.

Visit local farms for the freshest fruits. Ideally, apples should be organic as the conventional apples tend to need potent pesticides to repel insects.

Don’t Forget Your Grains

Whole grains like whole oats, quinoa, bulgur, and brown rice are another source of nutrients. They contain B vitamins and may help ward off those short day cold weather blues. They also add bulk to your meals and will keep you satisfied. Season them in many different ways to keep variety on your plate.

I like to use seasonings in a cultural or geographic way, using spices like ginger and 5-star anise for an Asian taste, cumin and coriander for Middle Eastern, and basil and oregano for Italian. This way you can take plain grains and make them quite tasty.

Here is one of my favorite fall recipes that you might enjoy. It’s a bit musky in flavor.

Autumn Lentil Soup with Wilted Greens

Ingredients:

  • 2 cups French lentils, rinsed
  • 2 tablespoons olive or grape seed oil
  • 1 onion, yellow or white
  • 2 celery stalks
  • 2 carrots, chopped
  • 3 garlic cloves, minced
  • 1 tablespoon ginger, freshly grated
  • 1 1/2 teaspoons ground cumin
  • 1/2 teaspoon ground coriander
  • 5 cups vegetable broth
  • 3 cups fresh mixed greens (e.g., red winter kale, Swiss chard, and spinach)
  • Sea salt (optional)

Directions:

Rinse lentils thoroughly and check for small stones. Place oil in a large soup pot and add chopped onion and celery.

Cook until onion is translucent and add carrots, garlic, ginger, cumin and coriander while gradually adding the 5 cups of vegetable broth. Bring to a boil and reduce heat. Simmer for 20-30 minutes until lentils are tender.

Remove from heat and stir in the mixed greens and sea salt.

If you are looking for a soup with a sweeter flavor, one that’s perfect for Autumn, head on to my blog for the Apple Parsnip soup recipe. It’s delicious.

Let’s Have a Conversation:

Are there some special things you plan to do to keep yourself healthy heading into the colder months? Which are your favorite fall fruits and veggies? Do you use them in tasty soup recipes? Please join the conversation and share your tips.

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How to Make Your Own Essential Oil Blend for Mature Skin (Recipe)

A Basic Essential Oil Blend for Everyday Mature Skin Care

With all the wonderful natural facial serums on the market today, it can be a little overwhelming choosing the correct formula with safe, non-toxic ingredients, all at a reasonable price. The good news is that it’s easy and fun to make a quality product on your own using the miracle of nature – essential oils. 

When I started working with skincare formulas in 2003, one of the first products I was excited about making was an essential oil-based facial serum. My skin needs were changing, and a moisturizing oil made perfect sense for dry, maturing skin.

I decided to work with four wonderful healthy aging essential oils I had discovered: Lavender, Frankincense, Rose Geranium, and Carrot Seed.

The natural and highly effective nature of essential oils makes them perfect for skincare. When blended for their various properties and used with a carrier oil that matches your skin type, you can create a serum tailor-made for your skin.

What Are Essential Oils?

Essential oils are the essence of plants. Hidden away in many parts of the plant, like the flowers, seeds, and roots, they are very potent chemical compounds. They can give the plant its scent, protect it from harsh conditions, and help with pollination.

The benefits of essential oils on humans are diverse and amazing. Lavender flower oil, for example, contains compounds that help soothe skin irritation and redness, while the scent reduces feelings of anxiety and stress.

The beautiful Rose essential oil is hydrating to the skin and sometimes used to treat scarring, while the scent is known to help lift depression. 

There are many essential oils to choose from for specific skincare needs. I have used a myriad of different combinations but keep coming back to the tried and true blend from my very first serum.

The four essential oils used are the workhorses of skincare for mature skin, as well as being wonderfully uplifting for mind, body, and spirit. 

The Base Oil Blend Formula

Here’s what you’ll need:

Bottle

1 oz. amber dropper bottle. You can find those in pharmacies or online.

Base (Carrier) Oil

As a base, you can use one of the oils below or a combination of several that meet your skin’s needs:

  • Jojoba oil is my base oil of choice. It’s incredible for most skin types: it’s extremely gentle and non-irritating for sensitive skin, moisturizing for dry skin, balancing for oily skin, ideal for combination skin, and offers a barrier of protection from environmental stressors. It also helps skin glow as it delivers deep hydration.
  • Rosehip oil smooths the skin’s texture and calms redness and irritation.
  • Argan oil contains high levels of vitamin E and absorbs thoroughly into the skin leaving little oily residue.
  • Avocado oil is effective at treating age spots and sun damage, as well as helping to soothe inflammatory conditions such as blemishes and eczema.
  • Olive oil is a heavier oil and the perfect choice if your skin needs a mega-dose of hydration. Just be aware that olive oil takes longer to absorb and leaves the skin with an oily feeling. This may be desirable for extremely dry, red, itchy skin.

Essential Oils

  • Lavender essential oil is very versatile and healing. It helps reduce inflammation, kill bacteria, and clear pores. Its scent is also calming and soothing.
  • Frankincense essential oil helps to tone and strengthen mature skin in addition to fighting bacteria and balancing oil production.
  • Rose Geranium essential oil helps tighten the skin by reducing the appearance of fine lines, helps reduce inflammation and fight redness, and offers anti-bacterial benefits to help fight the occasional breakout. The scent is also known to be soothing and balancing.
  • Carrot seed oil is a fantastic essential oil for combination skin. It helps even the skin tone while reducing inflammation and increasing water retention.

The Recipe

Let’s start with a simple recipe:

  • 1 oz. Jojoba oil (or carrier oil of your choice)
  • 10 drops Lavender
  • 10 drops Frankincense
  • 10 drops Rose Geranium
  • 10 drops Carrot seed oil 

Place the essential oil drops in the amber dropper bottle then fill with Jojoba/carrier oil. It’s that simple!

Applying Your Homemade Serum

Use this serum morning and evening as part of your regular skincare routine. Serums work best when applied after cleansing your face. You can cleanse with Coconut Oil or a mixture of oils for enhanced hydration (we will cover this in the next article) or use your regular facial cleanser.

Essential oils will not interfere in any way with your normal skincare products.

Keep in mind that the serum is concentrated. Use only a pea-sized amount, work it into your fingertips, and apply evenly over the face without tugging or pulling.

If your skin feels tacky, reduce the amount on the next application. Your skin should feel soft, not oily. Follow with your regular moisturizer if you like. 

Making your own facial serum is fun and rewarding! I look forward to hearing your thoughts and ideas on essential oils and making personalized serums and skincare.

What facial serum do you use? Have you made one yourself? What is your favorite essential oil for skin care? Please share your thoughts with our community!

4 Nutrition Tips for a Healthy Fall – Plus a Favorite Autumn Soup Recipe

fall nutrition tips and recipe

Autumn brings shorter days and longer nights which means less sunshine and warmth. In this season, you have less access to natural Vitamin D though deficiency in this vital nutrient is a risk factor for susceptibility to cold and flu viruses.

Be sure to have your numbers checked, especially if you are dark skinned. Fluctuations in temperatures are common and call for a transition to foods that will keep you feeling warm but not overheated.

You want foods that are filled with nutrients to offset colds and other viruses that are more common as we spend more time indoors.

From beets to squash, the fall harvest is full of antioxidant- and fiber-rich foods to keep you healthy.

It’s always beneficial to experience a variety of flavors on your plate. In the US, we most commonly go for sweet or salty, but broadening flavor to include bitter, sour, and pungent creates more balance and variety for your body.

Follow these nutrition tips and try the recipe to perk up your health during the autumn months.

Go for Root Vegetables

Root vegetables grow close to or under the earth and provide insulation during the colder months.

Underground gems like garlic, onions, ginger, turnips, carrots, sweet potatoes, beets, and parsnips are great autumn food choices and offer a variety of flavors. Think white, yellow, orange, and purple for vegetables that will nourish you in autumn.

Add Anti-Inflammatory Foods

Allergies abound in autumn, from mold and pollen, but eating apples and onions help block histamines. Nature’s wisdom provides them in abundance in this season.

Think Fall Fruits

Apples, pears, red grapes, and pomegranates top my list of super fruits for autumn. Rich in anti-oxidants and fiber, they are bacteria fighters and satisfy your appetite.

Visit local farms for the freshest fruits. Ideally, apples should be organic as the conventional apples tend to need potent pesticides to repel insects.

Don’t Forget Your Grains

Whole grains like whole oats, quinoa, bulgur, and brown rice are another source of nutrients. They contain B vitamins and may help ward off those short day cold weather blues. They also add bulk to your meals and will keep you satisfied. Season them in many different ways to keep variety on your plate.

I like to use seasonings in a cultural or geographic way, using spices like ginger and 5-star anise for an Asian taste, cumin and coriander for Middle Eastern, and basil and oregano for Italian. This way you can take plain grains and make them quite tasty.

Here is one of my favorite fall recipes that you might enjoy. It’s a bit musky in flavor.

Autumn Lentil Soup with Wilted Greens

Ingredients:

  • 2 cups French lentils, rinsed
  • 2 tablespoons olive or grape seed oil
  • 1 onion, yellow or white
  • 2 celery stalks
  • 2 carrots, chopped
  • 3 garlic cloves, minced
  • 1 tablespoon ginger, freshly grated
  • 1 1/2 teaspoons ground cumin
  • 1/2 teaspoon ground coriander
  • 5 cups vegetable broth
  • 3 cups fresh mixed greens (e.g., red winter kale, Swiss chard, and spinach)
  • Sea salt (optional)

Directions:

Rinse lentils thoroughly and check for small stones. Place oil in a large soup pot and add chopped onion and celery.

Cook until onion is translucent and add carrots, garlic, ginger, cumin and coriander while gradually adding the 5 cups of vegetable broth. Bring to a boil and reduce heat. Simmer for 20-30 minutes until lentils are tender.

Remove from heat and stir in the mixed greens and sea salt.

If you are looking for a soup with a sweeter flavor, one that’s perfect for Autumn, head on to my blog for the Apple Parsnip soup recipe. It’s delicious.

Let’s Have a Conversation:

Are there some special things you plan to do to keep yourself healthy heading into the colder months? Which are your favorite fall fruits and veggies? Do you use them in tasty soup recipes? Please join the conversation and share your tips.

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Plan Ahead to See Europe in Bloom

Europe in bloom

If the sight and scent of flowers fills you with joy, possibly even to the point of shaping your holiday planning, you’ll know how important it is to get your timing right. Regardless of where you’re going, you’ll want to make sure that you’re visiting at the very best time, when you can expect to find nature in full bloom. And fortunately, that often coincides in Europe with that sweet spot when you can expect minimal rainfall and warm weather and also avoid peak summer crowds.

As the days start to shorten and temperatures dip, now is the perfect time to start planning ahead for next year. With winter looming, what better time to get something in the diary so you can start dreaming of nights getting lighter, the weather milder and flowers beginning to bloom?

Not sure where to go? Here’s a rundown of some of my favourite European destinations where you can expect a splash of colour and the heady scent of floral blooms at key times during the year.

Tulips in Holland in April

Nowhere welcomes spring quite like Holland where the beautiful flower gardens at Keukenhof in Lisse are one of the largest in the world. Extending over 32 hectares, the gardens are awash with colour, the result of planting around 7 million flower bulbs. In 2026, the gardens will be open from 19 March to 10 May, but you’ll find the most vibrant displays blooming from mid-April onwards.

Poppies and Wisteria in Central Italy in May

In Italy, nothing heralds spring quite like a field of red poppies! In Umbria and across Tuscany’s Val d’Orcia in central Italy, this explosion of colour carpets the landscape from late April and throughout May. Scattered by the wind, the poppies emerge along train tracks and roadsides, and throughout ploughed fields, olive groves and vineyards.

Given that May is such a wonderful time for both colour and scent, it’s not surprising that a visit to the magnificent garden at La Foce in Tuscany is one of the highlights of our May walking tour in central Italy. At this time of year, the garden is awash with spring flowers and irises, and framed by a magnificent wisteria-clad pergola and walls swathed in climbing roses, jasmine, and honeysuckle.

Meanwhile, across the Tuscan sea on the island of Elba, you’ll find the air filled with the scent of wild lavender, and pathways through the Mediterranean scrub and yellow broom sprinkled with colourful flowers and edged by fragrant clumps of rosemary.

Lavender and Alpine Flowers in June

France, and specifically Provence, is synonymous with scented fields of lavender in June. Meanwhile, over in France’s Maritime Alps, the slopes are swathed in vivid clumps of wildflowers, set against a backdrop of craggy peaks. The heady smell of thyme fills the air, and wild orchids and blazing blue gentians provide a splash of colour.

The same is true of Slovenia where you’ll find a treasure trove of alpine floral offerings in the Julian Alps. As the snow melts, flower lovers can enjoy the spectacle of alpine slopes bursting into life with dazzling displays of Sweet William and flaming Carnic Lilies and walk through meadows and woodland sprinkled with striking blue flowerheads and lily of the valley.

Delve deeper into the floral world of the Julian Alps at the International Wild Flower Festival at Lake Bohinj between 22 May and 7 June 2026. Festival events take place at various locations in Bohinj, across an area of over 300km².

Wildflowers in the Dolomites in July

If you visit the awe-inspiring Dolomites in July, you’ll find lush green slopes and snow-capped peaks set against glorious blue skies. Lying predominantly in Italy’s South Tyrol, on the Austrian border, the landscape of the Dolomites is essentially one of spiky peaks and dense forests. However, by late June and into July, the Alpine flora is in full flow with eyepopping displays of golden hawksbeard, purple gentians, edelweiss and carpets of red Alpenrose.

But don’t let the peaks put you off. While the region is a paradise for serious hikers, it’s also suitable for gentle strollers who can amble through wildflower-strewn meadows and pretty hamlets festooned with blazing red geraniums and a profusion of flowers on roadside verges.

Autumn Foliage

By August, many of Europe’s most beautiful flowers are wilting. You’ll still find blinding displays of bougainvillea along the Amalfi Coast, but the sunflowers in the Tuscan countryside will be beginning to droop by the end of the month.

The good news is that the shift into September transports you into a multi-hued world of autumnal shades and foliage, even on a city break. In Florence, take time out of a busy sightseeing schedule for a walk in Le Cascine park where a swirl of fallen amber-hued leaves carpets the paths and walkways.

For even more spectacular displays of autumn colours, head for the beech forests in the Mugello where the foliage is aflame with burnished shades of red, and the heady scent of chestnuts, truffles and mushrooms fills the air in the village markets.

Meanwhile, in the northern Italian region of Piedmont, autumn is a wonderful time to experience the best of the region. Early morning mists shroud copper-tinged foliage, and October is the very best month to enjoy the region’s mouthwatering food and wine.

Indulge in a gastronomic journey of discovery through the region or hop on the Treno del Foliage on a 52 km panoramic route through Piedmont and Ticino (available from mid-October to early November).

Let’s Have a Conversation:

Have you ever visited any of these places? Do you prefer spring blooms or autumn foliage? Do you have any top tips for destinations for flower lovers?

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The Chase for Relevancy: How to Find It When You’re 60+

The Chase for Relevancy How to Find It When You’re 60+

You’ve reached the golden years – or perhaps the “silver years” feels more accurate – and yet, something feels off. You gave decades of your time, talents and presence to family, career, friendships, causes. But lately, you have found yourself whispering: Do I still matter? Am I still relevant?

I know I’ve struggled with this very issue in my 60s more than any other time in my life. I’ve felt completely irrelevant to my family and to an ever-advancing world that values quickness and youth and being able to figure out a new app in a split second like most 8-year-olds.

I’ve struggled to find my place as a solo ager as most of the people at my church are married and in other places the older singles only seem to want to talk about themselves… like for hours and hours… without taking a breath. It’s difficult to build friendships when monologues dominate.

I’ve also envied the grandmas who are surrounded by their grandchildren and who seem to be at the center of the family hub when it comes to love and nurturing and support. This is especially difficult when you live across the country. You try and try to keep in touch, but no one values your efforts, and no one reciprocates – it’s easy to just recoil and give up.

For some of us, the world seems to have moved on. Conversations are shorter, everyone’s attention flits to the next blink-and-you-miss-it post; the glance you once commanded now drifts elsewhere. You’re not sure where you fit anymore. By age 60, everyone has well-established long-term friendships and don’t seem to have room for new friendships, except for superficial, fluffy talk.

“At age 20, we worry about what others think of us. At age 40, we don’t care what they think of us. At age 60, we discover they haven’t been thinking of us at all.” —Ann Landers

Women’s Pursuit of Relevancy

And you’re not imagining it. An insightful article by Julie Hunter, titled Invisible Woman Syndrome Can Make Aging Hard brings attention to the fact that “mature” women often lament over the loss of their physical attractiveness while we compare ourselves with movie stars who appear forever young. I ask you: Are we that shallow to think our worth, or lack of it, depends on the number of wrinkles that adorn our face, or the number of grays that crown our head? Personally, I consider both to be badges of honor for a life well lived.

I feel vulnerable when I admit my feelings of irrelevance. I think, what if people don’t understand what I’m talking about, or worse, they discount it altogether by saying, “Oh, stop feeling sorry for yourself.” But there’s grace in admitting it – because once we name it, we dismantle its power.

The good news is that relevancy for women over sixty is alive, dynamic, and absolutely within reach, and I would add, ESPECIALLY when you’re in your sixties and above.

Re-Claiming Your Relevancy: A Hopeful Bridge

Here’s what I want you to remember: your age is not a full stop; it’s an underline, an exclamation mark. The fact that you’ve lived for decades gives you wisdom, perspective, and authenticity. In a world awash in 140-character updates and endless scrolls, the antidote to feeling irrelevant and invisible is being unmistakably you.

Let’s talk about some ways you can regain or increase your feelings of relevancy.

“You are never too old to set another goal or to dream a new dream.” —C.S. Lewis 

1. Reflect on When You’ve Felt Most Alive and Relevant

Before charging ahead, start from where you are. Grab a notebook and ask yourself: What are 3–5 major events in my life (excluding the birth of my children) when I felt the most vivid, purposeful, and fully seen?

  • A time you launched something (a business, a community project, a side-hustle).
  • A moment you helped someone navigate a crisis and realized your calm demeanor and wisdom mattered.
  • A period you mastered a new skill (painting, teaching, tech, storytelling) and felt the thrill of competence.

Write a sentence or two about each. What feelings rose in you? What was it about you at that moment that mattered? When you revisit that list, you’ll find that your relevancy was never about your age. It was about you – your presence, your voice, your actions.

2. Redefine Relevancy for Today’s Landscape

The world may feel noisier, faster, more fleeting than ever. But relevancy isn’t about being abreast of all the latest trends – it’s about being a trendsetter. Here are some reframes:

Less quantity of noise, more quality of voice

You don’t need to post every day (unless you love it). You need to show up when you have something to say, especially the things only you can say.

Mix your wisdom with curiosity

Your decades of experience are gold; pair them with a beginner’s mind. Learning one new thing, whether it’s a social media channel, a digital tool, or a local group, keeps your perspective fresh and your voice relevant.

Choose your arenas of impact

It might be your grandkids, yes, but also a volunteer role, a writing group, joining a board, a podcast. Relevancy doesn’t have to be epic in scale; it simply needs to be felt.

3. Take Purposeful, Feel-Good Action

Here are some practical steps you can take this week and into the next month:

Pick one project or passion you postponed

Your passion project may be resurrecting a craft you enjoyed, starting a local book-club, volunteering with a cause you care about. Set a “first step” date and keep the commitment to yourself.

Learn one new thing

Maybe it’s joining an online forum, starting a blog, or exploring TikTok (yes!). Pick something you’re curious about and let yourself be a learner. That mix of expert + explorer keeps you relevant and alive.

Create a “relevancy ritual”

Each week ask yourself: Where did I show up? Where was I seen? What did I offer? Celebrate that. And ask: What’s next? Because looking forward keeps the forward motion.

4. Embrace New Vocabulary Around “Age”

Instead of thinking, I’m too old to… try, I’m well-experienced and ready to… Instead of I’m irrelevant, re-frame to I’m evolving. Age isn’t the enemy – inertia is. And inertia is optional. You have the choice to tilt toward motion, toward presence, toward relevance.

One thing that has helped me is remembering that I’m not competing with youth, I’m complementing it – with my story, my wisdom, my authenticity. The younger generation doesn’t need a younger you. They need you, at this stage of life, with all the wisdom you bring to the table.

Final Thoughts

If you ever feel like the world has dimmed your place, remember that it’s a counterfeit voice, and it doesn’t belong in your head. Allow that quiet, or not so quiet, voice inside you to say, I have something important to give! Use the notebook prompts as a launch pad to step into one new thing this week. Let your voice find its echo again. Because the world still needs your story, your heart, your presence. And while you’re at it, look in the mirror and say, or shout, “I’m still relevant – more relevant than ever!” Say it often.

“There is an undeniable sense of solidarity and power among older women who have grown out of societal projections of youthful beauty. The wholeness and integration that these invincible women have mustered is awe-inspiring. They seem to have joined a mission of sorts: to survive patriarchy’s definitions of worthiness and to shine bright for each other. And shine they do. And sometimes, not as rare as one would think, others catch a glimpse of their light, look up, and notice. They are more than visible, they are luminous.” —Karen and Erica, Lustre (April 29, 2025)

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What one tip from this article will you implement today, this week, this month, this year? How might reigniting a strong sense of relevance change the way you move through your days – and the way others see you?

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Heather Dubrow’s White Denim Button Front Dress

Heather Dubrow’s White Denim Button Front Dress / Real Housewives of Orange County Season 19 Episode 16 Fashion

Heather Dubrow looks sophisticated and chic for a little frolicking through the fields tonight on #RHOC. Her white button front denim midi dress is the perfect thing to wear to not take away from all the vibrant colors being seen. And it’s just a great closet staple all around which is why I know you’ll have fungi shopping it below. 

Sincerely Stylish,

Jess


Heather Dubrow's White Denim Button Front Dress

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Madison LeCroy’s Rose Gold Face Mask

Madison LeCroy’s Rose Gold Face Mask / Southern Charm Instagram Beauty October 2025

Madison LeCroy has gorge skin and she shared the details on her gold face mask on her Instagram stories. We’ve also seen the same mask on other Bravo beauties Rachel Fuda and Lisa Hochstein, making it even more reason to add it to our nightly routine. Because when we find a product multiple Bravolebs wear, we know it’s like striking rosegold.

Best in Blonde,

Amanda


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Lisa Hochstein's Rose Gold Face Mask

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