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Why You Should Commit to the Carry-On and Tips for Making it Easy

Why You Should Commit to the Carry-On and Tips for Making it Easy

The world is divided into two different kinds of people: overpackers and underpackers. If you fall into the first category, don’t turn away yet! Give me a few minutes to try and convince you that there is a better way to travel.

As you might already suspect, I am an underpacker. My measure of a packing fail: Coming home with even one thing in my suitcase that I did not need, use or wear during my trip. I do fail sometimes, but not often anymore.

Here’s how to pack lighter – all lessons I learned the hard way.

Start with an Attitude Change

It helps that I don’t really care how I look. I don’t mean I would travel in ripped or dirty clothes. But I don’t need to be the glammed up center of attention. In fact, when you’re traveling, the more you can blend in, the better. You’re less likely to be targeted by pickpockets and local scammers.

Spend a little time researching what the locals wear and try to pack like that. This is the lesson I learned when I wore my electric blue winter coat to Romania, a former Soviet block country where there were two colors of winter coat: grey and black.

So if you simply must be a fashion plate, try to pare down the clothes to a capsule wardrobe of items you can mix and match and pieces that will do double duty.

Use a Packing List

These printable packing lists will give you a feel for the things you’ll need. If the list includes something you don’t think you’ll need, don’t pack it. If there is something missing, make a note on the printed sheet so you don’t forget it.

Check the Weather Forecast

I make this recommendation because I live in Chicago. We like to say, “If you don’t like the weather, wait 10 minutes.” Here, the calendar might say May, but the thermometer might say March. Or July.

So check the forecast for your destination. It will tell you whether to pack a raincoat, sunhat, shorts, or sweaters.

Start Packing Early

If you have a spare bed, room, couch or some other spot to hold the things you want to pack, start a week early and put everything on the bed that you think you might want on your trip.

Then walk away.

Come back the next day and look it over. Is there anything missing? Is there anything you think you might not need on the trip? Make adjustments accordingly.

Then walk away.

Come back the next day with the intention of making choices. If you have two pairs of pants on the bed, take away one pair. If you have four shirts, take away two. And so on, until you have cut in half the things on the bed.

Then walk away.

The next day, it’s time to pack. Start with the pieces of clothing you absolutely MUST have with you.

If you run out of suitcase before you run out of clothes to pack, you get to make a choice: Leave something else behind or pay $40 or more to check a bag.

Buy Packing Cubes

I resisted buying this travel essential for years. Now I can’t believe I ever traveled without them.

Packing cubes are flexible pouches with a brilliant zipper system. You pack them with the clothes you want to take, and zip them shut. Then – this is the brilliant part – you zip a second zipper to compress the insides flat. (Think of it like your expandable suitcase, when you open that second zipper, it gives you an extra inch or two of suitcase space. When you zip it shut, everything inside is compressed.)

As a bonus, the clothes you lay inside the packing cube are much more likely to stay wrinkle free. I don’t know why. But it’s true.

Stick with One Basic Color

When I head to a Caribbean resort, that color will be white. But most of the time, it’s black – black pants, a black skirt, a black dress. Then I add color in the tops I will wear with the pants and skirt. Finally, I pack a few scarves and funky costume jewelry to dress everything up or down and add more color.

Wear the Heavy Stuff on the Plane

There are plenty of TikTokers and travel hacker influencers who will tell you to wear layers and layers on the plane to save suitcase space. Or to pack a pillowcase with your stuff and pretend it’s a pillow, not a suitcase, so it doesn’t count as a carryon.

While that might be useful info for travelers on uber-budget airlines that charge for anything that doesn’t fit under your seat, you really don’t have to go that crazy. Just use a little common sense.

If, for example, you’re flying from Florida to Colorado, you know you’ll need your winter coat, hat, gloves, hiking boots and heavy jeans. Wear the jeans and hiking boots on the plane, stuff the hat and gloves in the coat pockets and carry the coat on the plane rather than packing it in a suitcase.

I do this anyway because I’m always chilly on a plane. I’m always surprised when I see someone boarding a flight in shorts and flip flops. I would be blue by the time I landed!

Think Layers, Not Bulk

Thin layers are always the right answer, no matter where you are. Even a Caribbean vacation requires preparing for chilly evenings or overly air-conditioned restaurants. Layers are the answer to staying warm and packing light.

Make the Best Use of Your Under-Seat Bag

Finally, remember that you get not one, but two things to carry onto the plane – a bag that goes into the overhead and a smaller bag that fits under the seat in front of you.

Don’t waste the space in that second bag!

My go-to is a roomy backpack because I travel with a lot of electronics – laptop, Kindle, phone, ear buds and all of the cords and accessories they require. But those only take up two zippered compartments. That leaves two more compartments for other things – makeup bag, an extra pair of shoes, etc.

The other thing that works for me is a big striped bag that is super flexible. I can cram a lot into it and still stuff it under the seat. The downside of that is it is heavy to carry, unlike my backpack which easily distributes the weight across my shoulders.

Practice, Practice, Practice

I know. This isn’t easy. Especially if you’ve always been an overpacker. But practice will make perfect. Try it on your next quick weekend trip. That will give you a chance to see how it feels to only pack what you’ll need for 2-3 days, how much you like being able to lift that light carry-on bag and how happy you are not worrying about whether your suitcase will show up at the other end of your flight.

Just remember to pack one more thing: a credit card. That way, if you find you truly can’t live without something for a few days, you can head to the store to buy it.

Let’s Have a Conversation:

Are you an overpacker or an underpacker? What’s your favorite packing hack? Share with us in the comment section below.

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A No-Buying Holiday Teaches More Than Saving Money

A No-Buying Holiday Teaches More Than Saving Money

The first time I tried No New Things was last December after reading Ashlee Piper’s book by the same name. Piper promises a simple 30-day guide to save money, be kind to the planet and protect your sanity. My first try did meet one of these goals. I saved more money than I expected. But, because I gave myself permission to buy holiday gifts, I was still shopping and didn’t feel the real impact of a commitment to no buying.

Round 2, which I completed at the end of last month, taught me more about myself than I ever imagined. I had no gifts to buy, so that excuse was gone. Grocery shopping is allowed, but food shopping is torture for me unless I’m strolling produce at an outdoor market and picking up cheese and sourdough from a local vendor.

If I had started a jar and added 10 bucks every time I picked up my phone to “shop” last month, I’d be planning a nice vacation. I had no clue the habit is so automatic or how much time I spend scroll shopping. Even more embarrassing, I tend to scroll for the same things I already own too much of: clothes, shoes, books, kitchen gadgets, handbags, home décor, office supplies, makeup and skin care. Here’s one thing I know for sure. There is no under-eye cream that will erase those dark circles like a good night’s sleep.

Closet Creativity

I am the first to admit I buy fast fashion because a new outfit makes me feel good or because I want something fresh for a party or concert. But what if the first and best place to look is in our own closets, drawers and shelves? We’re controlled by what Piper describes as conditioned consumerism, the steady pressure to believe newness will rescue us from boredom or stress. It doesn’t, and once we recognize this, consumerism has less control over our spending.

We forget what we own when we can’t see it. Things get buried, stored for efficiency instead of visibility, or tucked too high to reach. Once they disappear, they drop out of mind, too. A classic shirt at the back of the closet is a missed chance. Shoes in boxes, tangled jewelry, and out-of-season clothes hidden away might as well not exist.

Start with a small rediscovery. Pull hidden items forward and try new combinations from what you already own. Pair dressy shoes with basics, add a neglected scarf or necklace or layer differently. Hem, mend, polish or steam. “New” doesn’t always mean newly bought; sometimes it simply means newly noticed or newly appreciated.

Overbuying clothes has a huge environmental cost. The Environmental Protection Agency estimated textiles produced 17 million tons of municipal waste in 2018, with 11.3 million tons sent to landfills. The U.S. Government Accountability Office also found textile waste rose more than 50 percent from 2000 to 2018, driven partly by fast fashion and weak systems for collecting, reusing and recycling. It’s hard to imagine how much higher those numbers are now.

Before You Reorder, Take Stock

The same idea applies at work. Office supplies multiply in half-hidden places: pens in cups, notepads in drawers, chargers in tangled bins. Because they’re scattered, it often feels easier to reorder than to look. The issue usually isn’t scarcity but invisibility. A quick reset helps: group similar items, test what still works, keep the best within easy reach, and repurpose or give away what you don’t use.

Kitchens invite duplicate buying too because they’re often organized for storage, not use. Tools get stacked, tucked away, and spread across drawers. Specialty gadgets promise a better routine, so a new purchase can seem reasonable even when a similar tool is already at home.

When my blender died in May, I was tempted to replace it. I didn’t, and I learned something: that chalky protein powder on the high shelf is never becoming a smoothie in my kitchen, no matter how strong the blender. In a pinch, my food processor works just fine. Cha-ching.

Every purchase has consequences beyond your home. Shopping your own space first won’t solve the planet’s environmental problems, but it’s a practical place to start. It can also make daily life calmer, cheaper, and less crowded.

An Unexpected Consequence

Not shopping taught me something else too: sometimes I stop in stores because I need a restroom. One day in May, I used a store’s restroom and felt the usual urge to buy a small item in return – a card or cute top or swimsuit coverup. But new habits are taking hold. I checked my phone for something I need. Tennis balls for the dogs. I grabbed a six-pack and headed to the register.

“With your reward points, your total is… actually, you owe nothing,” the clerk said, smiling as she bagged my dog balls. It felt like a feather in the cap of an experiment I plan to repeat twice a year. The payoff is lower credit card bills, less clutter, and a cleaner conscience. Win, win, win.

Try it, if only to say you did. Thirty days goes quickly. You may find, as I did, that shopping and spending take time, create waste, and distract from enjoying what you already own.         

Share Your Thoughts:

Have you tried not shopping except for essentials for a month? How did it work out for you? How much did you save?

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How to Make Your Own Essential Oil Blend for Mature Skin (Recipe)

A Basic Essential Oil Blend for Everyday Mature Skin Care

With all the wonderful natural facial serums on the market today, it can be a little overwhelming choosing the correct formula with safe, non-toxic ingredients, all at a reasonable price. The good news is that it’s easy and fun to make a quality product on your own using the miracle of nature – essential oils. 

When I started working with skincare formulas in 2003, one of the first products I was excited about making was an essential oil-based facial serum. My skin needs were changing, and a moisturizing oil made perfect sense for dry, maturing skin.

I decided to work with four wonderful healthy aging essential oils I had discovered: Lavender, Frankincense, Rose Geranium, and Carrot Seed.

The natural and highly effective nature of essential oils makes them perfect for skincare. When blended for their various properties and used with a carrier oil that matches your skin type, you can create a serum tailor-made for your skin.

What Are Essential Oils?

Essential oils are the essence of plants. Hidden away in many parts of the plant, like the flowers, seeds, and roots, they are very potent chemical compounds. They can give the plant its scent, protect it from harsh conditions, and help with pollination.

The benefits of essential oils on humans are diverse and amazing. Lavender flower oil, for example, contains compounds that help soothe skin irritation and redness, while the scent reduces feelings of anxiety and stress.

The beautiful Rose essential oil is hydrating to the skin and sometimes used to treat scarring, while the scent is known to help lift depression. 

There are many essential oils to choose from for specific skincare needs. I have used a myriad of different combinations but keep coming back to the tried and true blend from my very first serum.

The four essential oils used are the workhorses of skincare for mature skin, as well as being wonderfully uplifting for mind, body, and spirit. 

The Base Oil Blend Formula

Here’s what you’ll need:

Bottle

1 oz. amber dropper bottle. You can find those in pharmacies or online.

Base (Carrier) Oil

As a base, you can use one of the oils below or a combination of several that meet your skin’s needs:

  • Jojoba oil is my base oil of choice. It’s incredible for most skin types: it’s extremely gentle and non-irritating for sensitive skin, moisturizing for dry skin, balancing for oily skin, ideal for combination skin, and offers a barrier of protection from environmental stressors. It also helps skin glow as it delivers deep hydration.
  • Rosehip oil smooths the skin’s texture and calms redness and irritation.
  • Argan oil contains high levels of vitamin E and absorbs thoroughly into the skin leaving little oily residue.
  • Avocado oil is effective at treating age spots and sun damage, as well as helping to soothe inflammatory conditions such as blemishes and eczema.
  • Olive oil is a heavier oil and the perfect choice if your skin needs a mega-dose of hydration. Just be aware that olive oil takes longer to absorb and leaves the skin with an oily feeling. This may be desirable for extremely dry, red, itchy skin.

Essential Oils

  • Lavender essential oil is very versatile and healing. It helps reduce inflammation, kill bacteria, and clear pores. Its scent is also calming and soothing.
  • Frankincense essential oil helps to tone and strengthen mature skin in addition to fighting bacteria and balancing oil production.
  • Rose Geranium essential oil helps tighten the skin by reducing the appearance of fine lines, helps reduce inflammation and fight redness, and offers anti-bacterial benefits to help fight the occasional breakout. The scent is also known to be soothing and balancing.
  • Carrot seed oil is a fantastic essential oil for combination skin. It helps even the skin tone while reducing inflammation and increasing water retention.

The Recipe

Let’s start with a simple recipe:

  • 1 oz. Jojoba oil (or carrier oil of your choice)
  • 10 drops Lavender
  • 10 drops Frankincense
  • 10 drops Rose Geranium
  • 10 drops Carrot seed oil 

Place the essential oil drops in the amber dropper bottle then fill with Jojoba/carrier oil. It’s that simple!

Applying Your Homemade Serum

Use this serum morning and evening as part of your regular skincare routine. Serums work best when applied after cleansing your face. You can cleanse with Coconut Oil or a mixture of oils for enhanced hydration (we will cover this in the next article) or use your regular facial cleanser.

Essential oils will not interfere in any way with your normal skincare products.

Keep in mind that the serum is concentrated. Use only a pea-sized amount, work it into your fingertips, and apply evenly over the face without tugging or pulling.

If your skin feels tacky, reduce the amount on the next application. Your skin should feel soft, not oily. Follow with your regular moisturizer if you like. 

Making your own facial serum is fun and rewarding! I look forward to hearing your thoughts and ideas on essential oils and making personalized serums and skincare.

What facial serum do you use? Have you made one yourself? What is your favorite essential oil for skin care? Please share your thoughts with our community!

A No-Buying Holiday Teaches More Than Saving Money

A No-Buying Holiday Teaches More Than Saving Money

The first time I tried No New Things was last December after reading Ashlee Piper’s book by the same name. Piper promises a simple 30-day guide to save money, be kind to the planet and protect your sanity. My first try did meet one of these goals. I saved more money than I expected. But, because I gave myself permission to buy holiday gifts, I was still shopping and didn’t feel the real impact of a commitment to no buying.

Round 2, which I completed at the end of last month, taught me more about myself than I ever imagined. I had no gifts to buy, so that excuse was gone. Grocery shopping is allowed, but food shopping is torture for me unless I’m strolling produce at an outdoor market and picking up cheese and sourdough from a local vendor.

If I had started a jar and added 10 bucks every time I picked up my phone to “shop” last month, I’d be planning a nice vacation. I had no clue the habit is so automatic or how much time I spend scroll shopping. Even more embarrassing, I tend to scroll for the same things I already own too much of: clothes, shoes, books, kitchen gadgets, handbags, home décor, office supplies, makeup and skin care. Here’s one thing I know for sure. There is no under-eye cream that will erase those dark circles like a good night’s sleep.

Closet Creativity

I am the first to admit I buy fast fashion because a new outfit makes me feel good or because I want something fresh for a party or concert. But what if the first and best place to look is in our own closets, drawers and shelves? We’re controlled by what Piper describes as conditioned consumerism, the steady pressure to believe newness will rescue us from boredom or stress. It doesn’t, and once we recognize this, consumerism has less control over our spending.

We forget what we own when we can’t see it. Things get buried, stored for efficiency instead of visibility, or tucked too high to reach. Once they disappear, they drop out of mind, too. A classic shirt at the back of the closet is a missed chance. Shoes in boxes, tangled jewelry, and out-of-season clothes hidden away might as well not exist.

Start with a small rediscovery. Pull hidden items forward and try new combinations from what you already own. Pair dressy shoes with basics, add a neglected scarf or necklace or layer differently. Hem, mend, polish or steam. “New” doesn’t always mean newly bought; sometimes it simply means newly noticed or newly appreciated.

Overbuying clothes has a huge environmental cost. The Environmental Protection Agency estimated textiles produced 17 million tons of municipal waste in 2018, with 11.3 million tons sent to landfills. The U.S. Government Accountability Office also found textile waste rose more than 50 percent from 2000 to 2018, driven partly by fast fashion and weak systems for collecting, reusing and recycling. It’s hard to imagine how much higher those numbers are now.

Before You Reorder, Take Stock

The same idea applies at work. Office supplies multiply in half-hidden places: pens in cups, notepads in drawers, chargers in tangled bins. Because they’re scattered, it often feels easier to reorder than to look. The issue usually isn’t scarcity but invisibility. A quick reset helps: group similar items, test what still works, keep the best within easy reach, and repurpose or give away what you don’t use.

Kitchens invite duplicate buying too because they’re often organized for storage, not use. Tools get stacked, tucked away, and spread across drawers. Specialty gadgets promise a better routine, so a new purchase can seem reasonable even when a similar tool is already at home.

When my blender died in May, I was tempted to replace it. I didn’t, and I learned something: that chalky protein powder on the high shelf is never becoming a smoothie in my kitchen, no matter how strong the blender. In a pinch, my food processor works just fine. Cha-ching.

Every purchase has consequences beyond your home. Shopping your own space first won’t solve the planet’s environmental problems, but it’s a practical place to start. It can also make daily life calmer, cheaper, and less crowded.

An Unexpected Consequence

Not shopping taught me something else too: sometimes I stop in stores because I need a restroom. One day in May, I used a store’s restroom and felt the usual urge to buy a small item in return – a card or cute top or swimsuit coverup. But new habits are taking hold. I checked my phone for something I need. Tennis balls for the dogs. I grabbed a six-pack and headed to the register.

“With your reward points, your total is… actually, you owe nothing,” the clerk said, smiling as she bagged my dog balls. It felt like a feather in the cap of an experiment I plan to repeat twice a year. The payoff is lower credit card bills, less clutter, and a cleaner conscience. Win, win, win.

Try it, if only to say you did. Thirty days goes quickly. You may find, as I did, that shopping and spending take time, create waste, and distract from enjoying what you already own.         

Share Your Thoughts:

Have you tried not shopping except for essentials for a month? How did it work out for you? How much did you save?

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Georgina Ferzli’s Grey Layered Sweater Dress and Boots

Georgina Ferzli’s Grey Layered Sweater Dress and Boots / In The City Fashion Season 1 Episode 4 Fashion

Georina Ferzli might not have loved her photos for her (future) Raya account, but I’d have to say at the very least she didn’t look like a “murder victim”. Though it did just about kill me when I saw that her grey layered sweater dress and boots are almost completely sold out…

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Georgina Ferzli's Grey Layered Sweater Dress

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Ciara Miller’s Brown Leather Patchwork Dress on Love Island

Ciara Miller’s Brown Leather Patchwork Dress on Love Island / Love Island Fashion Season 8 Episode 9

As mentioned in my post about Ariana Madix’s orange braid detail look from last night’s Love Island USA, we hosted people at our house last night so I only got about a half hour into the episode before I dozed off. But I was so excited to wake up and see that we got a little taste of Ciara Miller before tonight’s episode of Aftersun even airs. And her brown leather patchwork dress is the perfect fit for her. Because much like Ms. Miller, it was made for the runway.

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Ciara Miller's Brown Leather Patchwork Dress on Love Island

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Have You Even Been Reality Compromised?

Have You Even Been Reality Compromised

Years ago, before the internet settled household arguments in seconds, my then-husband and I had an ongoing disagreement about the lyrics to a song.

The song was “Drift Away” by Dobie Gray. I insisted the lyric was, “Give me the beat boys and free my soul.”

He insisted it was, “Give me the Beach Boys and free my soul.”

At the time, there was no easy way to prove who was right. And frankly, they both made sense, even though it was a soulful song and the Beach boys are a pop genre.

We would hear the song on the radio, have the same argument, and move on with our day. Then the internet arrived. Finally, the answer was available in black and white. I looked up the lyrics and triumphantly showed him the screen. There it was. Proof. The lyric was exactly what I said it was.

My husband studied the evidence, looked up at me, and said, “I still think it’s give me the Beach Boys.”

At the time, I laughed. Then I realized we were never going to be on the same page. There’s a reason he’s been my ex-husband for the last 25 years.

It’s About Acceptance

Now I realize that conversation taught me something far more important than the correct lyrics to a 1970s song. It taught me that facts and acceptance are two entirely different things.

Today, I see versions of that same conversation everywhere. People are presented with evidence and refuse to accept it. Companies deny what is written in their own policies. Family members remember the same event in completely different ways. Organizations ignore obvious problems because acknowledging them would be inconvenient.

Reality hasn’t changed. Our relationship with reality has. I’ve come to think of it as reality compromised. Not because facts no longer exist, but because many people seem increasingly comfortable ignoring them when they don’t support the conclusion they want.

The older I get, the more I think this is one of the defining challenges of our time. No matter how much experience I have under my belt, no matter how much I think I understand things there’s always a way people can maneuver about it and see other viewpoints.

Here are three lessons I’ve learned.

Lesson #1: Facts Don’t Always Win

Most of us were taught that if we could present enough evidence, reasonable people would eventually reach the same conclusion.

 Life has taught me otherwise.

People don’t process information as objectively as we’d like to believe. We filter facts through our experiences, fears, loyalties, beliefs, and interests. Sometimes accepting the truth requires admitting we were wrong. Sometimes it requires changing our behavior. Sometimes it costs us something. When that happens, many people choose comfort over reality.

 Understanding this doesn’t make it less frustrating, but it does make it less surprising.

Lesson #2: Choose Your Battles Wisely

This may be the most important lesson of all. When I was younger, I believed every misunderstanding could be resolved if I just explained myself better. If I provided one more document. One more witness. One more piece of evidence. Now I’m not so sure.

As reality becomes increasingly negotiable, there will be no shortage of battles available to us. The question is not whether you can fight them. The question is whether they deserve your time, energy, and peace of mind.

Some issues matter deeply and are worth pursuing. Others are simply arguments waiting to consume your life. Learning the difference is wisdom.

Lesson #3: Stay Anchored in Reality

The fact that someone disagrees with you does not automatically make you wrong. Nor does it automatically make you right. The answer is not to become stubborn. The answer is to stay grounded. Gather facts. Verify information. Remain open to changing your mind when new evidence appears. But don’t let someone else’s refusal to acknowledge reality shake your confidence in what you know to be true.

Reality does not require consensus. It exists whether people agree with it or not. Every time I hear “Drift Away,” I still smile. Not because I won the argument. Although I did. I smile because that silly disagreement taught me something that has become increasingly valuable over the years.

Facts matter. Reality matters. And in a world where more and more people seem willing to negotiate both, staying anchored to reality may be one of the most important life skills we have left.

What’s Next:

Do your own research stay grounded in the facts and ask yourself: “Do I need to die in this mountain or can I let it go?”

What About You?

As you’ve gotten older, have you found it easier or harder to deal with people who simply refuse to acknowledge reality? What helps you stay grounded when someone else’s version of events doesn’t match the facts? Share your experiences in the comments.

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What Walking Really Does for Us: Walking and Strength

What Walking Really Does for Us Walking and Strength

As we age, we’re told we lose muscle strength unless we engage in strength training. This article disputes the notion that walking isn’t strength training.

We build strength in different ways. Strength of character, strength of mind, strength of body. We’re told we need to exercise if we want to keep our vitality, our cognition, our balance, our daily functioning. Few people talk about maintaining strength of character. It seems once you’ve built character, it stays with you.

Physical strength, emotional strength, character strength, and strength of mind influence each other. One feeds the other and vice-versa. To build physical strength, you need strength of mind. To build emotional strength, you need character strength. You build character by overcoming obstacles.

Strength and Walking

I am a walker and a hiker. I want to talk of building strength through walking. For humans, walking is a basic mode of locomotion. Think of the joy a child feels when it stands and takes initial steps. Via walking, a child discovers entirely new experiences. Walking opens a different way of seeing and experiencing the world.

Seeing and experiencing through walking lasts a lifetime. If we give up walking for driving a car, or another mechanized mode of transportation, we give up an essential means of maintaining vitality. By minimizing walking, we gradually lose physical strength. By losing physical strength, we lose confidence, become emotionally unstable, which leads to loss of character strength.

Have you ever experienced renewed vigor after a walk that led you to face a difficult problem? Indeed, this demonstrates how body, mind, and psyche interconnect.

Strength Doesn’t Get Built Overnight

Every January people commit to improving their health by going to the gym, starting an exercise program, losing weight. To improve their minds by reading more and developing a regular sleep routine. To relax more, they start a relaxation or meditation practice. If you lack character strength, discipline, and emotional regulation, your intentions will fail by March. It is easier to start where you are and make one minor change at a time.

If you haven’t been walking, fit in a short walk at a convenient time of day. See how you feel and keep at it. Consistency is the key to success. Every little walk builds strength. I had to rebuild my fitness after a full knee replacement. My mind and body crave walking, so it’s easy to get out the door.

To overcome stiffness and pain, and build up my leg strength again, I had to increase the distance incrementally, or I would experience a painful backlash. It took 6 months before I could walk my usual distances. My mood has improved, my thinking has improved, my sleep has improved, and my zest for life is back. I’m planning trips that need resilience. Here’s how strength can be rebuilt during older life stages.

We Are Told That If Strength Isn’t Immediate, It Isn’t Real

When you take that first walk; when you pick up that 2lb weight, when you hold your tongue in an argument, you don’t feel strong. But when your walk happens 4 times a week, or the weight you can pick up becomes an 8lb weight as you do your reps, you start feeling stronger. Walking away from abusive arguments makes you feel strong. Strength doesn’t happen at once; it grows quietly, when you persist, and it becomes real. Building strength in small increments builds or rebuilds character.

Strength Is in the Returning, in Taking Small Steps

Maybe it’s a brief phone call to an estranged friend or a family member that opens the door to building a renewed relationship. By returning over and over to a friend or family member, you build a strong relationship. It takes strength of character to take the first step.

To join a walking or hiking group takes inner strength. To join a book group, or other group, takes courage. Once you do it, you’ll find that the group energy will carry you. You will build not only physical or emotional strength, but you will build friendships that will strengthen your self-esteem. You will build a support system that will strengthen your daily functioning.

To meet people after relocating to an unfamiliar town, I became part of multiple hiking clubs. I started my own walking group as well. Within a year, I had a circle of friends I could relate to, share with, and who helped me solve problems as I navigated contractors, landscapers, and medical providers. Now I can help other newcomers by inviting them to my walk-and-talk group on Thursday mornings and referring them to our local hiking groups.

I fill a role in my community. All this builds strength. I have found other hikers who will challenge themselves, and I can continue my long-distance hiking in good company. My sense of vitality is high for my age.

Vitality Is a Core Strength

Upon waking, do you greet the new day with a smile? Are you able to extend your walk when you’ve taken a wrong turn on the trail? Do you have the energy to help a neighbor or friend? If you can say yes to these questions, you have vitality.

Walking maintains and builds vitality. You don’t gain vitality by doing reps in the gym – although that is a good thing to do to keep your physical strength. Vitality arises from physical, emotional, and mental balance. All the forms of strength work together to create vitality. Vitality is not dramatic; it is devoted to your well-being.

Vitality is the hum that fuels your life. It will surprise you and show up when you need it. I rely on my vigor for tough tasks, for occasional bursts of energy in routine living. I pay attention to having balance in my life so my vitality springs up again and again. Reboot your system and revitalize yourself through walking or hiking. But after a stressful period in your life, or when you’re recovering from an illness, rest will build strength and vitality.

Women past 60 seeking renewed energy plus a fresh path should start right where they are, incorporating small, manageable doses of the strength-building techniques discussed.

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Ariana Madix’s Orange Braided Crop Top and Skirt Set

Ariana Madix’s Orange Braided Crop Top and Skirt Set / Love Island Fashion Season 8 Episode 9

To be fully transparent, we had people over last night and I only made it through the first half hour of Love Island last before I fell asleep. BUT the minute I woke up this morning I hopped on Instagram to see what fab fit Ariana Madix showed up in. And her coral orange braided trim crop top and knotted maxi skirt did not disappoint. So while I go catch up on who was sent packing, go ahead and steal Ariana’s style to stow away in your suitcase for your next tropical trip.

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Ariana Madix's Orange Braided Crop Top and Skirt Set

Photo: @loveislandusa / Styled By: @emilyabbey_
 


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