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Why You Should Commit to the Carry-On and Tips for Making it Easy

Why You Should Commit to the Carry-On and Tips for Making it Easy

The world is divided into two different kinds of people: overpackers and underpackers. If you fall into the first category, don’t turn away yet! Give me a few minutes to try and convince you that there is a better way to travel.

As you might already suspect, I am an underpacker. My measure of a packing fail: Coming home with even one thing in my suitcase that I did not need, use or wear during my trip. I do fail sometimes, but not often anymore.

Here’s how to pack lighter – all lessons I learned the hard way.

Start with an Attitude Change

It helps that I don’t really care how I look. I don’t mean I would travel in ripped or dirty clothes. But I don’t need to be the glammed up center of attention. In fact, when you’re traveling, the more you can blend in, the better. You’re less likely to be targeted by pickpockets and local scammers.

Spend a little time researching what the locals wear and try to pack like that. This is the lesson I learned when I wore my electric blue winter coat to Romania, a former Soviet block country where there were two colors of winter coat: grey and black.

So if you simply must be a fashion plate, try to pare down the clothes to a capsule wardrobe of items you can mix and match and pieces that will do double duty.

Use a Packing List

These printable packing lists will give you a feel for the things you’ll need. If the list includes something you don’t think you’ll need, don’t pack it. If there is something missing, make a note on the printed sheet so you don’t forget it.

Check the Weather Forecast

I make this recommendation because I live in Chicago. We like to say, “If you don’t like the weather, wait 10 minutes.” Here, the calendar might say May, but the thermometer might say March. Or July.

So check the forecast for your destination. It will tell you whether to pack a raincoat, sunhat, shorts, or sweaters.

Start Packing Early

If you have a spare bed, room, couch or some other spot to hold the things you want to pack, start a week early and put everything on the bed that you think you might want on your trip.

Then walk away.

Come back the next day and look it over. Is there anything missing? Is there anything you think you might not need on the trip? Make adjustments accordingly.

Then walk away.

Come back the next day with the intention of making choices. If you have two pairs of pants on the bed, take away one pair. If you have four shirts, take away two. And so on, until you have cut in half the things on the bed.

Then walk away.

The next day, it’s time to pack. Start with the pieces of clothing you absolutely MUST have with you.

If you run out of suitcase before you run out of clothes to pack, you get to make a choice: Leave something else behind or pay $40 or more to check a bag.

Buy Packing Cubes

I resisted buying this travel essential for years. Now I can’t believe I ever traveled without them.

Packing cubes are flexible pouches with a brilliant zipper system. You pack them with the clothes you want to take, and zip them shut. Then – this is the brilliant part – you zip a second zipper to compress the insides flat. (Think of it like your expandable suitcase, when you open that second zipper, it gives you an extra inch or two of suitcase space. When you zip it shut, everything inside is compressed.)

As a bonus, the clothes you lay inside the packing cube are much more likely to stay wrinkle free. I don’t know why. But it’s true.

Stick with One Basic Color

When I head to a Caribbean resort, that color will be white. But most of the time, it’s black – black pants, a black skirt, a black dress. Then I add color in the tops I will wear with the pants and skirt. Finally, I pack a few scarves and funky costume jewelry to dress everything up or down and add more color.

Wear the Heavy Stuff on the Plane

There are plenty of TikTokers and travel hacker influencers who will tell you to wear layers and layers on the plane to save suitcase space. Or to pack a pillowcase with your stuff and pretend it’s a pillow, not a suitcase, so it doesn’t count as a carryon.

While that might be useful info for travelers on uber-budget airlines that charge for anything that doesn’t fit under your seat, you really don’t have to go that crazy. Just use a little common sense.

If, for example, you’re flying from Florida to Colorado, you know you’ll need your winter coat, hat, gloves, hiking boots and heavy jeans. Wear the jeans and hiking boots on the plane, stuff the hat and gloves in the coat pockets and carry the coat on the plane rather than packing it in a suitcase.

I do this anyway because I’m always chilly on a plane. I’m always surprised when I see someone boarding a flight in shorts and flip flops. I would be blue by the time I landed!

Think Layers, Not Bulk

Thin layers are always the right answer, no matter where you are. Even a Caribbean vacation requires preparing for chilly evenings or overly air-conditioned restaurants. Layers are the answer to staying warm and packing light.

Make the Best Use of Your Under-Seat Bag

Finally, remember that you get not one, but two things to carry onto the plane – a bag that goes into the overhead and a smaller bag that fits under the seat in front of you.

Don’t waste the space in that second bag!

My go-to is a roomy backpack because I travel with a lot of electronics – laptop, Kindle, phone, ear buds and all of the cords and accessories they require. But those only take up two zippered compartments. That leaves two more compartments for other things – makeup bag, an extra pair of shoes, etc.

The other thing that works for me is a big striped bag that is super flexible. I can cram a lot into it and still stuff it under the seat. The downside of that is it is heavy to carry, unlike my backpack which easily distributes the weight across my shoulders.

Practice, Practice, Practice

I know. This isn’t easy. Especially if you’ve always been an overpacker. But practice will make perfect. Try it on your next quick weekend trip. That will give you a chance to see how it feels to only pack what you’ll need for 2-3 days, how much you like being able to lift that light carry-on bag and how happy you are not worrying about whether your suitcase will show up at the other end of your flight.

Just remember to pack one more thing: a credit card. That way, if you find you truly can’t live without something for a few days, you can head to the store to buy it.

Let’s Have a Conversation:

Are you an overpacker or an underpacker? What’s your favorite packing hack? Share with us in the comment section below.

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Poem: Trust Your Choices

Poem Trust Your Choices

How do you measure: are you losing or winning?
Is life full of triumph or slightly head-spinning?
Here’s a small exercise, simple yet wise:
Take stock of your “big deals” – your lows and your highs.

Your marriages, missteps, your loves and your losses,
Your brilliant “I nailed it” or “Oh Well . . . that was crosses.”
Your children, your choices, your flops and your flair.
Make a list of them all. Yes, everything’s fair.

Now travel back softly to ten-year-old you:
What mattered back then? What felt thrilling and true?
A badge on your sash? Your first fish on a line?
A pocketknife treasure you thought was divine?

Those moments reveal what mattered to you then,
And how you’ve been changing again and again.
For growth isn’t just getting older each year –
It’s seeing why things felt important or dear.

Remember the drill team in eighth grade delight?
You made it – hooray! You belonged! What a sight!
It wasn’t just rhythm or boots in a row –
It was proof you weren’t clumsy, you could steal the show.

And missing the flag team? That wasn’t a curse –
Perhaps those big banners would only feel worse!
Too heavy, too tall – just not meant for your hand.
So pom-poms you chose, and you cheered in command.

Do you see the small wisdom tucked into your track?
Each “no” gently nudged you when you should move back.
You never were failing, not truly – not you.
You simply made choices with less-perfect view.

And what of that marriage that fizzled in three?
Was it “just a mistake”? Or a lesson to see?
Perhaps it revealed what you never would choose,
Or taught you of strength when you felt you might lose.

You must own each moment, each stumble, each scar –
For wisdom is built from actions which are . . .
You cannot step forward, you cannot feel free,
Till you claim: “This whole journey was crafted by me.”

For all those “bad choices,” those cringe-worthy days,
Are bricks in the path of your present-day ways.
Without them, dear friend, you would not be this you
A different whole person, with different whole view.

So, look with clear eyes – be both steady and kind,
Examine your past with a calm, level mind.
You might find you had choices you didn’t quite see.
Or too many options that tangled your “be.”

And if you are fearful to walk your known track,
Admit it – no shame in a courage you lack.
For timing is clever, and growth has its pace –
You’re gathering strength for your next daring place.

So trust in your journey, each twist and each turn –
For wisdom is something you live and you earn.
You’re not lost or failing – no need to pretend.
You’re learning your way right on through to the end.

Let’s Have a Conversation:

Which of your choices have worked out well – and which haven’t? What have you learned from both in the course of time? Do you trust the choices you make?

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How to Make Your Own Essential Oil Blend for Mature Skin (Recipe)

A Basic Essential Oil Blend for Everyday Mature Skin Care

With all the wonderful natural facial serums on the market today, it can be a little overwhelming choosing the correct formula with safe, non-toxic ingredients, all at a reasonable price. The good news is that it’s easy and fun to make a quality product on your own using the miracle of nature – essential oils. 

When I started working with skincare formulas in 2003, one of the first products I was excited about making was an essential oil-based facial serum. My skin needs were changing, and a moisturizing oil made perfect sense for dry, maturing skin.

I decided to work with four wonderful healthy aging essential oils I had discovered: Lavender, Frankincense, Rose Geranium, and Carrot Seed.

The natural and highly effective nature of essential oils makes them perfect for skincare. When blended for their various properties and used with a carrier oil that matches your skin type, you can create a serum tailor-made for your skin.

What Are Essential Oils?

Essential oils are the essence of plants. Hidden away in many parts of the plant, like the flowers, seeds, and roots, they are very potent chemical compounds. They can give the plant its scent, protect it from harsh conditions, and help with pollination.

The benefits of essential oils on humans are diverse and amazing. Lavender flower oil, for example, contains compounds that help soothe skin irritation and redness, while the scent reduces feelings of anxiety and stress.

The beautiful Rose essential oil is hydrating to the skin and sometimes used to treat scarring, while the scent is known to help lift depression. 

There are many essential oils to choose from for specific skincare needs. I have used a myriad of different combinations but keep coming back to the tried and true blend from my very first serum.

The four essential oils used are the workhorses of skincare for mature skin, as well as being wonderfully uplifting for mind, body, and spirit. 

The Base Oil Blend Formula

Here’s what you’ll need:

Bottle

1 oz. amber dropper bottle. You can find those in pharmacies or online.

Base (Carrier) Oil

As a base, you can use one of the oils below or a combination of several that meet your skin’s needs:

  • Jojoba oil is my base oil of choice. It’s incredible for most skin types: it’s extremely gentle and non-irritating for sensitive skin, moisturizing for dry skin, balancing for oily skin, ideal for combination skin, and offers a barrier of protection from environmental stressors. It also helps skin glow as it delivers deep hydration.
  • Rosehip oil smooths the skin’s texture and calms redness and irritation.
  • Argan oil contains high levels of vitamin E and absorbs thoroughly into the skin leaving little oily residue.
  • Avocado oil is effective at treating age spots and sun damage, as well as helping to soothe inflammatory conditions such as blemishes and eczema.
  • Olive oil is a heavier oil and the perfect choice if your skin needs a mega-dose of hydration. Just be aware that olive oil takes longer to absorb and leaves the skin with an oily feeling. This may be desirable for extremely dry, red, itchy skin.

Essential Oils

  • Lavender essential oil is very versatile and healing. It helps reduce inflammation, kill bacteria, and clear pores. Its scent is also calming and soothing.
  • Frankincense essential oil helps to tone and strengthen mature skin in addition to fighting bacteria and balancing oil production.
  • Rose Geranium essential oil helps tighten the skin by reducing the appearance of fine lines, helps reduce inflammation and fight redness, and offers anti-bacterial benefits to help fight the occasional breakout. The scent is also known to be soothing and balancing.
  • Carrot seed oil is a fantastic essential oil for combination skin. It helps even the skin tone while reducing inflammation and increasing water retention.

The Recipe

Let’s start with a simple recipe:

  • 1 oz. Jojoba oil (or carrier oil of your choice)
  • 10 drops Lavender
  • 10 drops Frankincense
  • 10 drops Rose Geranium
  • 10 drops Carrot seed oil 

Place the essential oil drops in the amber dropper bottle then fill with Jojoba/carrier oil. It’s that simple!

Applying Your Homemade Serum

Use this serum morning and evening as part of your regular skincare routine. Serums work best when applied after cleansing your face. You can cleanse with Coconut Oil or a mixture of oils for enhanced hydration (we will cover this in the next article) or use your regular facial cleanser.

Essential oils will not interfere in any way with your normal skincare products.

Keep in mind that the serum is concentrated. Use only a pea-sized amount, work it into your fingertips, and apply evenly over the face without tugging or pulling.

If your skin feels tacky, reduce the amount on the next application. Your skin should feel soft, not oily. Follow with your regular moisturizer if you like. 

Making your own facial serum is fun and rewarding! I look forward to hearing your thoughts and ideas on essential oils and making personalized serums and skincare.

What facial serum do you use? Have you made one yourself? What is your favorite essential oil for skin care? Please share your thoughts with our community!

Poem: Trust Your Choices

Poem Trust Your Choices

How do you measure: are you losing or winning?
Is life full of triumph or slightly head-spinning?
Here’s a small exercise, simple yet wise:
Take stock of your “big deals” – your lows and your highs.

Your marriages, missteps, your loves and your losses,
Your brilliant “I nailed it” or “Oh Well . . . that was crosses.”
Your children, your choices, your flops and your flair.
Make a list of them all. Yes, everything’s fair.

Now travel back softly to ten-year-old you:
What mattered back then? What felt thrilling and true?
A badge on your sash? Your first fish on a line?
A pocketknife treasure you thought was divine?

Those moments reveal what mattered to you then,
And how you’ve been changing again and again.
For growth isn’t just getting older each year –
It’s seeing why things felt important or dear.

Remember the drill team in eighth grade delight?
You made it – hooray! You belonged! What a sight!
It wasn’t just rhythm or boots in a row –
It was proof you weren’t clumsy, you could steal the show.

And missing the flag team? That wasn’t a curse –
Perhaps those big banners would only feel worse!
Too heavy, too tall – just not meant for your hand.
So pom-poms you chose, and you cheered in command.

Do you see the small wisdom tucked into your track?
Each “no” gently nudged you when you should move back.
You never were failing, not truly – not you.
You simply made choices with less-perfect view.

And what of that marriage that fizzled in three?
Was it “just a mistake”? Or a lesson to see?
Perhaps it revealed what you never would choose,
Or taught you of strength when you felt you might lose.

You must own each moment, each stumble, each scar –
For wisdom is built from actions which are . . .
You cannot step forward, you cannot feel free,
Till you claim: “This whole journey was crafted by me.”

For all those “bad choices,” those cringe-worthy days,
Are bricks in the path of your present-day ways.
Without them, dear friend, you would not be this you
A different whole person, with different whole view.

So, look with clear eyes – be both steady and kind,
Examine your past with a calm, level mind.
You might find you had choices you didn’t quite see.
Or too many options that tangled your “be.”

And if you are fearful to walk your known track,
Admit it – no shame in a courage you lack.
For timing is clever, and growth has its pace –
You’re gathering strength for your next daring place.

So trust in your journey, each twist and each turn –
For wisdom is something you live and you earn.
You’re not lost or failing – no need to pretend.
You’re learning your way right on through to the end.

Let’s Have a Conversation:

Which of your choices have worked out well – and which haven’t? What have you learned from both in the course of time? Do you trust the choices you make?

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Real Housewives of Beverly Hills Season 15 Reunion Looks

Real Housewives of Beverly Hills Season 15 Reunion Looks

I finally recovered from whiplash due to all the arguments amongst the #RHOBH ladies this season just in time for the reunion where, let’s be honest, it’ll happen again. Thankfully we got to see their gorgeous looks ahead of time so that we can focus on the drama.

I thought ladies were all equally classy and chic in their dresses, and each of them had their own personal vibe showing in their choices. And this is season 15 after all so not your first Rodeo… you know the drill head below get your hands on some similar styles! 💎

Sincerely Stylish,

Jess


Kyle Richards’ Season 15 Reunion Look

Kyle Richards' Season 15 Reunion Look

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Dorit Kemsley’s Season 15 Reunion Look

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Erika Girardi’s Season 15 Reunion Look

Erika Girardi's Season 15 Reunion Look

Styling: Morgan Pinney Harwood

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Best of Real Housewives Beverly Hills Season 15 is In!

Real Housewives of Beverly Hills Season 15 Fashion Best Sellers
Real Housewives of Beverly Hills Season 15 Beauty Best Sellers
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The Hidden Pressure to Have It All Figured Out

The Hidden Pressure to Have It All Figured Out

We have this obsession with needing to know what we want at all stages of our lives.

And it doesn’t fade with age. In fact, sometimes it gets louder.

There’s a subtle expectation that by now, by this stage of life, we should feel certain. Settled. Complete. As though we’ve arrived at a final version of ourselves.

The Pressure to Know What You Want

But what if that expectation has been following us since childhood?

“What do you want to be when you grow up?”

Damn, I’m part of the problem; I’m sure I’ve said this to my niece.

It sounds innocent enough. Encouraging, even, but it plants something early, the idea that we are supposed to know. That there is a right answer. That once we find it, we’re supposed to stick with it.

And that belief doesn’t stop in childhood. We choose subjects, careers, roles. Over time, those choices harden into identity. We stop saying, “This is what I’m doing,” and start saying, “This is who I am.”

But Things Don’t Always Remain the Same

Until something shifts. You can’t quite explain it. It just feels different.

The work that once energised you feels heavy. The role you’ve played so well doesn’t quite fit anymore. Even the things that used to light you up don’t quite land in the same way.

And instead of seeing that as growth, we see it as a flaw.

Surely by now, we tell ourselves, I should have this figured out?

Sometimes we reach midlife, or later, and what once felt steady suddenly fills us with dread. You find yourself back at a crossroads and start thinking there must be something wrong with you because you’re older now and still don’t know what you want.

Going Back Full Circle

You’re embarrassed. You hate to admit it, but you feel like you’re back where you were as a teenager or in your early 20s, still wondering what you want to do.

How can I feel this at this age?

And sometimes it’s not even about going back to who you were at a certain age.

Sometimes it’s about realising the roles you’ve carried for years as mother, wife, carer, organiser, the one who holds everything together, are shifting.

And when that happens, there’s this strange space.

You’re not unhappy. You’re not ungrateful. But you’re no longer defined in the same way.

And the question becomes quieter but heavier:If I’m not just this role… then who am I now?

You don’t really want to bring it up because you can almost hear it already:

“Don’t be ridiculous.”

“How can you not know what you want by now?”

Looking for Yourself

So you go on a quiet quest to find yourself. You try different things. Go to different places. Adopt different identities. Jeez, you might be vegetarian one month, exploring Buddhism the next, and taking up fencing after that.

This quest for knowing, for certainty, can be exhausting. Gut-wrenching even. But what if knowing exactly what you’re meant to do for the whole of your life is, quite frankly, a load of poppycock?

Humour me for a minute.

What if this need to label ourselves and stick to it is part of what keeps us stuck?

We’re taught that we have to know what we want, what we want to be. We’re conditioned to think there’s one correct path. Yet life throws unexpected turns and through all of it, we’re somehow meant to stay exactly the same?

Who decided that?

What If We All Have Seasons?

What if we’re meant to do different things in different chapters? Maybe we don’t have one single soul purpose. Perhaps we have a few. Or many. Or perhaps we simply evolve into truer versions of ourselves over time.

Did you know that a hermit crab outgrows its shell? The shell once protected it. It suited the crab perfectly. But as it grows, that same shell becomes restrictive. It doesn’t mean the shell was wrong. It simply means growth happened. So the crab finds a new shell.

Maybe We Need to Change the Narrative

It shouldn’t be embarrassing not to know. Uncertainty doesn’t equal failure! It can equal opportunity. Think of life less as something you must figure out once and for all, and more as something you get to explore. The world becomes a playground. You get to try things on and see what fits.

Doesn’t That Sound Exciting?

Growth doesn’t stop because we’ve reached a certain age. We all have the option to grow. To try new things. To test what works.

The only time it truly doesn’t work is when we stop allowing ourselves to try.

If any of this feels familiar, if you’re in a season of questioning and not quite sure what fits anymore, sometimes it helps to talk it through.

I offer free one-to-one discovery calls for women who want space to explore what this next chapter could look like.

Let’s Have a Conversation:

Do you have everything in life figured out? What has escaped you to date? What identities have you tried so far? Which ones fit better than the others?

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Taking a Day Off from Yourself

Taking a Day Off from Yourself

There’s a line in a song I wrote recently that stayed with me longer than the music:

“I know it’s my own doing… bein’ where I be… but that don’t make it easier… livin’ inside of me.”

We All Live in Our Own Thoughts

I didn’t write that line as advice. It wasn’t meant to fix anything. It just showed up one day, the way honest things tend to do. And the more I sat with it, the more I realized how much of life can feel like that – being aware of where we are, how we got there, and still not finding any relief in that understanding.

There’s a quiet weight that comes from living inside your own thoughts too long. Not always loud or dramatic. Sometimes it’s just a steady presence – going over the same ground, revisiting the same moments, asking questions that don’t seem to lead anywhere new.

And every now and then, it raises a simple possibility.

What would it feel like to step outside of that, even briefly?

Not in a dramatic, life-changing way. Not by fixing anything. Just… stepping away for a while.

A Different Kind of Day

Maybe it’s getting in the car and driving somewhere with no particular destination. Maybe it’s sitting in a place you don’t usually go. Maybe it’s doing something small and unfamiliar, something that doesn’t carry the usual weight of expectation.

I’ve felt it in small moments like that. Even something as simple as going to a movie in the middle of the day. There’s something about it that feels a little off at first – like you’re stepping outside the normal rhythm of things.

And then the movie ends, and you walk back out into the daylight… and for a second, it doesn’t quite line up. The world is still moving along like it always does, but you’ve been somewhere else for a while.

It’s a strange feeling. Not bad. Just different.

Like you stepped outside of yourself… and then quietly stepped back in.

Stepping Out of Yourself Provides Perspective

There’s something quietly powerful in that. Not because it changes who you are, but because it reminds you that you’re not limited to one way of being in the world. Even if it’s only for a short time.

And maybe the most surprising part isn’t the change itself – it’s the moment afterward. That small recognition that you did something different. That you gave yourself a break from the familiar rhythm of your own thinking.

There’s a kind of dignity in that. Not pride in the usual sense, but a quieter acknowledgment:

I stepped outside of it for a while.

No judgment. No fixing. Just a shift.

Those Moments Make Us Pause

And then something else occurred to me – something I’ve noticed over the years, especially when I’m writing.

Sometimes a line will come to me that feels like it didn’t come from effort at all. It just arrives. And every now and then, I’ll stop and read it back and think, Where did that come from?

That line I shared above – “I know it’s my own doing… bein’ where I be… but that don’t make it easier… livin’ inside of me” – was one of those moments.

It made me pause.

Not to fix anything. Not to judge anything. Just to take a quiet inventory.

Because it didn’t feel like I was saying something about myself. It felt more like something in me was speaking to me.

And what it was saying wasn’t harsh. It wasn’t critical.

It was almost the opposite.

It was a kind of quiet reminder.

Be a little easier on yourself.

Recognizing Where We Currently Are

Writing has a way of doing that. So does any honest form of expression. It has a way of showing us not just what we’ve done, but how we’ve been treating ourselves along the way.

And sometimes, what it reveals isn’t that we’ve made mistake – —that part we usually already know.

It’s how hard we’ve been on ourselves for making them.

There’s a difference between recognizing where we are… and punishing ourselves for it.

And maybe, every now and then, what we really need isn’t correction.

Maybe it’s just a small shift.

A softer voice.

A moment where we step outside of that constant inner conversation… and give ourselves a little room to breathe.

Not forever.

Just for a while.

Because the truth is, we all carry things. We all have places inside ourselves that feel heavier than we’d like. Knowing that doesn’t make it disappear. It doesn’t make it easier.

But it does make it human.

And maybe, every now and then, it’s enough to take a day off from living inside all of it… and just be somewhere else, even for a little while.

Let’s Have a Conversation:

What thoughts constantly occupy your mind? Have you tried stepping out of yourself for a little bit? What does that feel like? Does it bring clarity or something else?

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